The Do's and Don'ts of Talking About Trans Peoples Do: Use the person's current name and pronouns, even when talking about the past. (See "A Guide to Not Misgendering Trans People") Don't: Bring up the person's deadname or use their old pronouns, even when talking about the past. Do: Use the correct and preferred terminology: Noun - transgender person/woman/man Adjective - transgender or trans Verb - to transition Don't: Use outdated, incorrect, or offensive terms such as "transexual", "transgenderED", "a transgender", "tr*nny", etc. Do: Only mention the person's trans identity when it is completely relevant, and only if the person has indicated that you may do so. Don't: Constantly mention the person's trans identity, introduce them as your "trans friend", or out them if they would rather keep their identity private. Do: Research your questions online. There are many transgender educators and content creators online who have created ample resources to help you learn. Don't: Ask invasive personal and medical questions, or ask trans people to educate you on their identities and experiences. Questions & Queeries QuestionsAndQueeries.com